Have you ever tried to change a bad habit or develop untapped potential you were sure was waiting deep inside you? Maybe you wanted
to be more assertive but found, despite your best efforts, that you kept caving in when you wanted to stand firm. Or maybe you wanted
to work more collaboratively with someone but found yourself getting irritated and aggressive. Inner leadership is about making the
changes in your life that will bring you the success and satisfaction you yearn for.
Many people try to use will power to make
changes in their lives and find it doesn’t work for the same reason diets usually don’t work. Using will power alone to force change
violates the inner ecology of our minds which then triggers a counter-reaction. When this happens it seems like an internal
saboteur comes alive to force us back into our old patterns of behavior. This does not mean that will power and motivation aren’t
necessary. It means they must be part of a more comprehensive program to properly harness them.
Other people try positive thinking.
They keep repeating affirmations such as “Every day and in every way I am getting better and better” only to find that after a while
they are repeating these formulations in a mindless, mechanical way. After a while they get bored and stop. Positive thinking works
too, but only when it is part of a larger plan to master our life story. When we just add a positive punch line to the same old story
that we have always been telling ourselves, we get the same old results.
Making sustainable change requires self-awareness,
motivation and the courage to master our stories as well as set skillful goals that take both our current situation and our ecology
of mind into account. If you are ready to make the changes that will allow you to be more successful and more satisfied with you life,
coaching can support you on your journey.
"Greg has a special capacity for coaching that includes an exceptional intuition and
the ability to establish a keen, warm-hearted connection with his client. He is especially good at offering level-headed but powerful
suggestions for changing old, unhelpful ways of acting. For example, among other things he was able to help me redirect positively
my seemingly unshakeable habit of staying up too late every night, a habit acquired as a young doctor and then as an academic always
-- Ted Stein, M.D., Ph.D.
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